Simply put, self-esteem is the mental image we have of ourselves. People with a good self-image are more likely to be successful in all aspect of their lives. Their positive attitude is likely to help them in school or a work and they are more likely to develop positive relationships than people with poor self-esteem.

People who suffer from poor self-esteem often find themselves struggling to accomplish even the most simple of goals. They often feel that they are not good enough, smart enough, attractive enough or even simple just not enough. These negative thoughts can impact upon your life every day.

There is hope, though. You can develop positive self-esteem if you are willing to put the time and energy into it.

1. View mistakes as opportunities to learn something new

Try not to think of mistakes as something bad; instead take the chance to learn something new. Life itself is a process of learning and everyone, no matter how perfect they seem, can learn new things.

Why are you any different? If you make a mistake, step back from it, think about what went wrong and determine what to do to avoid the same mistake in the future.

2. Nobody is perfect, so don’t expect yourself to be

Instead of focusing solely on perfection, focus on obtainable goals. Do not limit yourself by your need to be perfect. If you enjoy running, don’t wait to enter a race until you are certain you can win; just enter the race!

3. Stop being so negative

People who suffer from low self-esteem focusing on what they think are wrong with them. Anytime you find yourself doing this, counter yourself with one positive thought. If you find yourself thinking ‘I’m too fat too fit into those jeans’, counter the thought with something like ‘I’m proud of the fact that I’ve lost three pounds – I’ll fit into those jeans in no time at all’.

Another excellent ‘positive thinking’ exercise is to write down three positive things about yourself each night. After a week or two, go back and read them; you may be surprised to read about what a great person you are!

4. Step out of your comfort zone

Let yourself out of your ‘safe’ place and try new things. Go to a new restaurant or try out a new hobby. It is a great way to find out what you are really good at (or what you really like). Take pride in that.

5. Open your mouth

Your thoughts have merit and value, so share them with others. Do not fall into the trap that your ideas or opinions are ‘dumb’ or ‘stupid.’ The next time someone asks your opinion, tell them what you really think. Even if your opinion is different to theirs, it is still valid.

6. There is no magic wand to change things

There are some things you simply cannot change. While there are some things about yourself you can change, like your weight or your personal style, there are other things that you will simply never be able to change. Instead of hating your freckles, realize they are there to stay and try to learn to love them.

These are just a few ideas you can use to improve your self-esteem; however, the most important thing you can do is remind yourself day in and day out that you are worth it, you are more than enough.

Surround yourself with positive people who love and cherish you. Find something positive about yourself with every completed activity. The more you say positive things about yourself, the easier it will be and your self-esteem and self confidence will grow and grow over time.

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If you lack self esteem and are low in self confidence then you probably spend a lot of time wishing you had the confidence to act and behave in the way people with high self esteem do.

If you want to be happier and derive more from life increasing your self confidence and self esteem is the key and its easy to do with these simple tips.

What Low Self Esteem Means

Having low self esteem and lacking confidence in your ability to do the things you’ve always wanted to do can distort your views, making you think everything always seems to go right for everyone but you.

The Cure

In reality, people who appear to be high in self confidence and always seem to get what they want simply believe in themselves. Being high in self esteem opens you up to the possibility of success rather than failure.

If you are high in self esteem you understand that failing at something means just that, you have failed at one task, it does not make you a failure.

What is Self Esteem?

Self esteem refers to the way you perceive yourself and the way you think others perceive you.

If you have low self esteem then you will tend to have a low opinion of yourself, your capabilities and how people perceive you.

If you have a high sense of self esteem then you will have a positive and realistic opinion of yourself and how people perceive you. You will have a good awareness of your strengths and weaknesses.

How to recognize if you are suffering from Low Self Esteem

If you’re internal thoughts tend to begin with:

• I can’t…

• I must…

• I should…

The chances are you are suffering from low self esteem

How to Build Confidence and Self Esteem

People with a highly developed sense of self esteem have the self confidence to achieve their goals. Succeeding at the goals they set for themselves adds to the self confidence building blocks they already have in place.

Each successive achievement creates opportunities for greater success and self belief which increases their perception of self esteem.

Having a positive sense of self perception and self esteem is one of the most important factors for increasing your self confidence as if you believe you will succeed at a task then the chances are you will.

If you believe you are going to fail at a task, then you will act accordingly, and the chances are you will fail.

Tips for improving self esteem:-

• Make a list of all your strengths. Remember we are all good at something. Your list could include being a good parent, a loyal friend or a trusted employee.

• Perception creates reality so perceive yourself as someone who achieves the things you set out to do.

• Remember that success builds upon success, so set yourself small goals initially, and build on them.

• Believe in yourself. For every negative belief you hold about yourself think of four positive ones. If you can’t think of beliefs that are true at the moment then think of beliefs you would like to be true that you can work towards.

• Choose two things that you know you are good at and think of three ways you could work to improve each of these even more. By concentrating on areas that you know you are already good at will improve your confidence and be a good building block for future success.

• Even if you sometimes don’t feel like it always act in a confident manner.

• Make a list of positive affirmations that you can use to encourage yourself and raise your confidence.

• Surround yourself with positive, successful, confident people.

By practicing these tips aimed at raising your confidence and self esteem, you will begin to change the way you perceive yourself and the things you are able to achieve.

Increase Your Self Esteem & Get More From Life

As your self esteem increases you can start to think about the things you used to put yourself down for and use the same techniques to build on your confidence.

Don’ allow small setbacks to diminish your newly gained self esteem. Keep it in perspective and remember it’s just that, a small setback.

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