Esteem

Steve Weeres

June 22, 2006 — Part of our current view of life is the way we see ourselves when we look in the mirror.  The two most critical times of the day for defining what we think of ourselves are when we go to bed and when we wake up.  This thinking has a lot to do with the way things are going.  Our lives right now are the sum of our total thoughts, experiences, and dreams.

Self-esteem can be defined as the way we see ourselves.  It’s not that we have or don’t have self-esteem, but rather a matter of what degree it is.  Our self-esteem as a whole may be “dragged down” by one or two weak areas of our lives.  In order to improve our self-esteem, we must first evaluate what our levels are.

Step No. 1:  Chart Your Current Self-Esteem Levels

Most people have differing levels of self-esteem when it comes to different subjects.  Let’s evaluate the main areas of our lives: Family, Friends, Career, Personal, Work, and Home.  You may have great self-esteem when it comes to work, but very low self-esteem when it comes to family.  Chart where you are in terms of self-esteem for each of these subjects on a scale of 1 – 10, with 1 being extremely low and 10 being excellent self-esteem.

Family  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10

Friends  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10  

Career  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10

Personal  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10

Work  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10  

Home  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10

Now that we have a snapshot of our current level of self-esteem in the areas affecting our lives, we can determine which areas of our life may be holding us back.

Pinpointing the areas of low self-esteem is really key to improving on them.  Simply take the rating chart we just did and resolve to work on the lowest area immediately.  Keep focusing on the lowest area until it bypasses another area, then focus attention on the new low area.

Step No. 2:  Never, Never Break A Promise To Yourself

The single most important factor in personal self-esteem is to never, never break a promise to yourself.  Like most people, we make promises to ourselves lightly and shrug it off or blame it on circumstance if we are unable to follow it through.

This is devastating.  What happens when a friend or relative promises us and continually breaks those promises?  We begin to shrug off their promises and not expect them to become reality.  But when we start to shrug off our own promises to ourselves, who can we rely on?  In fact, if we shrug off our own promises, how can we take steps towards success?

It is absolutely critical that if we make a promise to ourselves, keep it!!  If we promised ourselves to throw a stone into the river each time we cross a bridge, do it.  If we don’t, we retrace our steps and throw the stone.  We won’t say, “Oh well, I will just throw two stones next time” and keep walking.  We cannot risk the loss of personal self-esteem.  It is a deadly habit that can destroy our chances for success.

Step No. 3:  Make Realistic Promises To Yourself

Most people make the mistake of making much too ambitious promises to themselves.  Make these promises sparingly and keep them. Don’t make this mistake!  We can always do more than we promised and not have our self-esteem suffer.  

With each promise we keep, we will feel better and better about our circumstance, ability to tackle new challenges, and ourselves.  Think for a moment about the times we cleaned our car, or the kitchen.  When we stood back and surveyed our handiwork, we felt really good.  But if we had promised to do it for two weeks and had not completed it until today, much of the satisfaction was gone.  Our self-esteem had suffered.  Our trust in ourselves weakened.

Step No. 4:  Develop New Perspectives

Our assets are many and very powerful.  Regardless of who we are, we all have these gifts that have been bestowed upon us.  No matter who we are we have an education, whether it is format or not.  We all have abilities.  We all have things that we like, or would like to do.  We all have past accomplishments and unlimited potential.  We all have positive thoughts and dreams that we cherish and provide ourselves with a source of inspiration, patience and persistence.  We all have a degree of imagination.

No matter what your circumstance, what your handicaps are, these assets are many times more powerful!  This package of assets unquestionably makes you a winner, the most powerful force in the universe.  This package of assets can overcome any and all of the liabilities you face now, or may face in the future!  Looking at the world and the challenges you face from the perspective that you have the assets to overcome them is critical in keeping your self-esteem high.  

Step No. 5:  Take Credit Where Credit Is Due

Always, always, always take credit for the successes that you have achieved and do not attribute them to luck, chance, or someone else’s efforts.  Adopt the perspective that you are successful because of your efforts and contributions.  If you can alter your perspective on success, the sky is truly the limit!

Step No. 6:  Building Self-confidence

Step No. 7:  Balancing Life

All people have certain needs.  They have a need for self worth, they need self-confidence, they need learning, how to count their blessings not their troubles, how to overcome depression, where to look for support.  To be truly happy, people need peace of mind, health and energy to enjoy life as it happens, deep meaningful relationships, and the sense of fulfilling their potential.  They need a balanced life.

These are vital needs.  Given the lack of education society provides in these areas, it is almost impossible for people to deal with some of these HUGE issues.  Master Keys To Success was developed to fill that gap and help people achieve success and happiness.  With 27+ years of research into over 200 principles of success, Master Keys To Success can give you the skills necessary for an improved self-esteem and a balanced life.  

Steve Weeres Master Keys on Today’s Family
 

Success and satisfaction is subjective in context and measured differently by everyone. Therefore, accomplishment successes may be personal in nature but they embed better self regard and self image in the achiever. Personal motivation plays a major, if not the most important role in determining your success. There are many activities you can take on to help you boost your self esteem.

A positive self esteem is the very first step to achieving all that you desire. You are able to go further, travel farther and work harder because you strongly believe that you are just a step away from achieving that goal of yours. The ultimate purpose of self esteem activities are to bring out the best in you and leave you feeling better about yourself. You will soon attribute your successes to self esteem activities, which includes self improvement and motivation-induced learning. This will help you in your daily motivation and staying on track with your self improvement plans.

Note that everyone is granted 24 hours a day. How you use your time says much about yourself. You could spend time on worthwhile causes or waste it away on superficial activities. To better illustrate this, consider someone who spends a day on a charity cause and another who spends it on channel surfing on television. Being involved in charitable causes brings tremendous satisfaction. You will discover that you have so much to offer and are able to contribute to the betterment of lives in others. This in return, boosts your self esteem.

As Helene Malmsio from the Free Daily Motivation website says, “To ensure that you will live the life of a winner, make sure you get the motivational self improvement training and support to design and achieve the life of your dreams!”

You must also learn to organize and prioritize. Being aware of what is demanded of you and the ability to take charge of your schedule produces a liberating sensation. It reduces time wasted and enables you to give your best to an activity at any given time. You may want to read personal development self help books to help you develop a better idea of prioritizing. Such motivational self improvement books will also inspire and challenge you to make a change in your life.

You can also join various personal enrichment classes offered by clubs, organizations and individuals. They are often based on personal interests such as cooking, grooming and exercise. These classes help to enhance your daily motivational self improvement and cultivate a passion for things beyond your daily routine.

These self esteem activities are just some of the many ways to build a better you. You should appreciate yourself before anything else because you are essentially a capable individual meant to achieve so much more beyond your current potential.

The most important thing here to be successful is constant motivation and self-improvement along with a healthy self esteem about yourself and your abilities. You need to always look for opportunity to develop yourself further in everything you do. Learn more self esteem activities and download a free ebook with famous quotes for every day of the year at http://free-daily-motivational-self-improvement.com.

If you lack self esteem and are low in self confidence then you probably spend a lot of time wishing you had the confidence to act and behave in the way people with high self esteem do.


If you want to be happier and derive more from life increasing your self confidence and self esteem is the key and its easy to do with these simple tips.


What Low Self Esteem Means


Having low self esteem and lacking confidence in your ability to do the things you’ve always wanted to do can distort your views, making you think everything always seems to go right for everyone but you.


The Cure


In reality, people who appear to be high in self confidence and always seem to get what they want simply believe in themselves. Being high in self esteem opens you up to the possibility of success rather than failure.


If you are high in self esteem you understand that failing at something means just that, you have failed at one task, it does not make you a failure.


What is Self Esteem?


Self esteem refers to the way you perceive yourself and the way you think others perceive you.


If you have low self esteem then you will tend to have a low opinion of yourself, your capabilities and how people perceive you.


If you have a high sense of self esteem then you will have a positive and realistic opinion of yourself and how people perceive you. You will have a good awareness of your strengths and weaknesses.


How to recognize if you are suffering from Low Self Esteem


If you’re internal thoughts tend to begin with:


• I can’t…


• I must…


• I should…


The chances are you are suffering from low self esteem


How to Build Confidence and Self Esteem


People with a highly developed sense of self esteem have the self confidence to achieve their goals. Succeeding at the goals they set for themselves adds to the self confidence building blocks they already have in place.


Each successive achievement creates opportunities for greater success and self belief which increases their perception of self esteem.


Having a positive sense of self perception and self esteem is one of the most important factors for increasing your self confidence as if you believe you will succeed at a task then the chances are you will.

If you believe you are going to fail at a task, then you will act accordingly, and the chances are you will fail.


Tips for improving self esteem:-


• Make a list of all your strengths. Remember we are all good at something. Your list could include being a good parent, a loyal friend or a trusted employee.


• Perception creates reality so perceive yourself as someone who achieves the things you set out to do.


• Remember that success builds upon success, so set yourself small goals initially, and build on them.


• Believe in yourself. For every negative belief you hold about yourself think of four positive ones. If you can’t think of beliefs that are true at the moment then think of beliefs you would like to be true that you can work towards.


• Choose two things that you know you are good at and think of three ways you could work to improve each of these even more. By concentrating on areas that you know you are already good at will improve your confidence and be a good building block for future success.


• Even if you sometimes don’t feel like it always act in a confident manner.


• Make a list of positive affirmations that you can use to encourage yourself and raise your confidence.


• Surround yourself with positive, successful, confident people.


By practicing these tips aimed at raising your confidence and self esteem, you will begin to change the way you perceive yourself and the things you are able to achieve.


Increase Your Self Esteem & Get More From Life


As your self esteem increases you can start to think about the things you used to put yourself down for and use the same techniques to build on your confidence.


Don’ allow small setbacks to diminish your newly gained self esteem. Keep it in perspective and remember it’s just that, a small setback.

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